Hearing is one of those senses that we take for granted until we start losing it. In the mid 1990s I began to lose my hearing. Now fifteen years later I have severe bilateral sensorineural hearing loss and Meniere's Disorder which means that I struggle with vertigo issues along with the hearing issues.
So how has this impacted my life? In the early days I could simply rely on my left ear which was unaffected but when both ears were involved it was time to act. First order of business was to visit my Otolaryngologist (ear, nose and throat specialist) who ordered hearing tests, balance tests and wrote an Rx for Valium to ease the vertigo symptoms. It took some time to find a really good audiologist but that was a vitally important step. Interestingly enough the best audiologists I've worked with both have hearing loss-one from birth, the other as a result of kidney disease. It's a bit of a no brainer to say that they understand! Anyone can perform a hearing test and/or fit a hearing aid but having someone who relates to your situation on an emotional level is a precious commodity. One of the greatest gifts I received from my first audiologist was to understand that having hearing loss only limited my lifestyle as much as I ALLOWED it to.
I went through an intense period of fear. Every day I woke up and the first thought in my brain was "Am I going to be able to hear well enough today to understand what people are saying to me?" I could have easily become a recluse during this phase but thanks to an extremely supportive husband, a group of extremely caring friends and my faith in God I didn't. That's not to say there weren't many tears shed and hours of anxiety. But I did come out on the other side to a place where I accepted my situation, became pro-active about letting people know I have hearing loss and assuming that there would always be SOME way to communicate with the world around me. What a relief to finally reach that point!
Technology continues to improve and research is going on constantly to understand and treat hearing loss. Thanks to my current audiologist I have state of the art digital hearing aids and Bluetooth devices to aid in using cell phone and television. The ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act) is finally beginning to address issues which impact people with hearing loss-visual paging in airports, loop systems in concert halls, assistive listening devices in theatres and celebrity involvement which heightens awareness.
If you have hearing loss I am preaching to the choir; but if you are a full hearing person I can suggest that you raise your awareness level and reach out to anyone you meet with hearing loss. Sometimes I find people avoid interacting with me perhaps because they are afraid I won't understand them. And then there are the folks like my daughter-in-law's mother who never gives up. She just repeats and ramps up the volume!
The bottom line is, when you look normal, people general expect the typical response to come from you. Be prepared for a moment of confusion, a change in attitude, and you making an adjustment so you are able to have a meaningful conversation. Situations will demonstrate how frail others are and how if you don't fit into their box of expectations frequently they will pull back into a "protective" mode of thinking because they do not know how to respond. You must expect that to happen, and move forward in helping them get over their short comings. You can do it.